It Takes A Village

It takes a village to raise a mom. A village that reminds us mothering is valuable, sacred and challenging. A village that teaches us to nourish ourselves, feed our souls, and let go of the belief that mothers should always be sacrificing. We need a village to teach us compassion for our partners, our children, and ourselves. 

Isolation is a major problem for many mothers I see in counseling. Self -judgment, and fear of not being accepted keep some women from reaching out towards others. The relief I see as women develop their interests, find kindred spirits, and give and receive support is amazing. We are indeed all creating a more supportive and caring village.

I have been in a mom’s group for 19 years now, and as my children have grown I know that I can call these women to ask for advice, support, or comfort when I need it The connection that women create in our community is critical to our well being as mothers, and to our planet. The more we speak, listen and support one another, the stronger and healthier we all become.

"The remedy for hard silences about crucial matters seems so simple: When you are together, in one place, be together truly. Tell your troubles, your confusions. Without answers, you can still be together in the search. You must be reckless." -Kim Stafford

 

 

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, PhD

A Gift For Your Heart

Self- Compassion is proving to be a major indicator of mental well being. The way we talk to ourselves in our minds is often judgmental, critical, and harsh. Therefore many people walk around with a burden of shame that is toxic and prevents them from knowing their true nature.

Mindfulness teachers, therapists, and researchers such as Brene Brown are recognizing the importance of self-compassion in lowering stress, and leading a more easeful life.

Postpartum Support International

The Postpartum Support International (PSI) website is a rich resource for couples expecting and new mothers, fathers and their family members wanting more information about perinatal and postpartum mood disorders.  PSI provides"Chat with an Expert"  for both moms and dads.  PSI also provides a warmline which parents or family can call for support, information, and resources.  Calls are returned daily.  The warmline number is:  1-800-944-4773.   

Baby Blues Connection

The Baby Blues Connection is a local resource for pregnant and postpartum parents experiencing depression and anxiety. Baby Blues offers phone support, support groups in the Portland Metro area and SW Washington, and online resources to help moms, dads, and family members learn more about the symptoms and realities of postpartum mood disorders and find professional and community support.   

Free Hotline 24/7 - 1-800-557-8375